I Want Him Back ASAP

July 4th, 2009 • Related • Filed Under

Forget plotting out a 360-day plan to get him back. You miss your ex and you want him back in your life right now, not a year down the road! So how can you shortcut your success with this relationship reconciliation.

Act like you don’t care – even if you do a LOT. Don’t be a bitch about it, but you can act like it’s not the end of your world. This will make him start the chase because men want to be wanted. Start dating again – you don’t have to take it seriously, but he needs to know he’s not the only fish in the sea. It’ll make him want to get caught by you again.

Men are visual creatures. Do whatever you can to make him desire you physically. Does he like blondes? Consider a temporary hair color. Does he hate it when you bite your nails? Get solar nails put on. Do you need to tone up? Do it – if you really miss your ex and want him back.

Make a life without him as fast as possible, making him think you’ve moved on. This single tactic will make him want to be in the forefront again as your leading man. In this new stage of being single, he still might consider you “his girlfriend” and he’ll become territorial if you start checking out other guys. Then you won’t have to say, “I want him back because he’ll already be making a bee line for you.

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  1. Comment by Lexi on 5 July 2009:

    Ok, so how do you fix it if you went the mushy, crying, overtexting route in the beginning?

  2. Comment by author on 7 July 2009:

    Hey Lexi! Well it happens, right? You have to first stop doing that. He needs breathing room and to see that you aren’t going to go batty over him every time you see him/hear his name, etc. Space and time are YOUR friend in this scenario even if you feel it hurts. Then after a couple of weeks (2 min), put some humor back into the situation. Send him one email or text that says something to the effect of, “Hey – sorry I had a meltdown when we broke up. LOL I’m sane now. Hope you’re doing well.” Laugh at yourself about it so he can take his defenses down and feel like you’re safe to chat with. And DO laugh about it. You will eventually. Then be back to a friend level – you have to build back up. After your 1st communication about the being sane again part, wait about a week again and then find a way to get together OR just chat again – such as, “Heading to ______ – have you ever been to this? I’m wondering if it’ll suck.” etc. You know, be causal and friendly. Without knowing more about your specific situation, it’s hard to advise.

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